Wheelock College: Graduation May 2015

May 15, 2015 in Alive Campus, Campus Life, Career, Colleges

I am proud to announce that today, May 15, 2015 I have finally graduated from Wheelock College! I am the first one in my family to graduate from college and it is an achievement and dream that I am proudly to announce that it has come true. A lot of people say that college are the best years of a person’s life and I have to admit college was more of an self exploration and self change, according to my experience and thoughts, than fun and exciting. Don’t get me wrong it was fun and thrilling to explore the new independence from my parents and meet a lot of new friends, but the most part of my learning and experiences happened within myself and not with the friends I made.

Wheelock College Graduate!

Wheelock College Graduate!

The best times were the times when I gained new views on social justices, feminism and other controversial topics within the classroom and outside the campus. During these four years, I have learned to rethink, explore, and re-explore my ideas and views. I have never learned so much about my self in any other setting in my life and I have to say that it was thanks to the professors and staff at Wheelock College that enable me to explore and experience something new and different from my views and gave me a new gateway to the same ideas.

Aside from the discovery of new ideas and learning about myself, especially my passions and views, the teachers at Wheelock College are the most wonderful staff members and I will miss each and every one of them very much. I will miss a lot of professor who have pushed me to the fullest and challenge me not only in the classroom setting, but helped me achieve many goals outside the classroom. I will miss those teachers who were patience and understanding whenever I had a difficult time submitting an assignment and when I had a family problem that will affect my academic performance.

Lastly, I want to say to all the freshmans, sophomores, juniors, and soon to be seniors that you can do it! Graduating from college is possible if you put your mind to it and do not give up. I know some have circumstances that enable them to struggle through college, but don’t give up; the end of that dark tunnel is going to be the best day of your life. Talk to your professors, academic advisors and other faculty members whenever you have any problems or need some advise. You will see the different opportunities that will arise in your life as you see people are willing to help you achieve your goals.

I never thought that this day will ever come and 4 years of college went by so fast that by the time I realize it; it was graduation day.  Enjoy your time in college and never forget that you can make a difference in the world by being yourself and as Wheelock College’s mission statement states, “inspire a world of good” and create change by “improving the lives of children and families”.

The Grown-Up World

May 7, 2015 in Alive Campus, Career

GraduationAs I’m about to graduate college in about a week, I’ve come to the realization that I will be entering the adult world. I finished my last exam yesterday and it was one of the best feelings in the world! I’m done with my undergraduate studies! What a huge accomplishment, especially at a military college. However, that night it hit me like a brick wall…I’m about to enter the real world and I will be on my own.

I don’t think that anyone can really prepare you for that moment. No one really tells you that you will be on your own figuring out your life and how to live it. Up until now you’ve had the comfort of a daily routine of school since you were five years old. Now you have to get a job, pay taxes, pay for an apartment, a car, insurance, groceries. You have to learn how to cook, do laundry, and find your way in life and there is nothing scarier than that.

When I came to that realization last night, I questioned whether or not I was ready. But are we ever ready? For me, I’m not a big fan of change. It scares me. Plus, I have the mindset that if something isn’t broke then why fix it? But at the same time, I think it’s the shove into adulthood that we all need. Since I haven’t experienced it yet, I don’t know what it will be like and they always say don’t let your fears overcome your ability to try something new. You have to step outside of your comfort zone in order to do great things and live your life and that is so important to remember. I think I often let my fears and insecurities get in the way of what I can do and I’m sure other people are the same way.

Once we overcome those insecurities and realize that, yes the adult world might be scary, but we all have to face it, then we can push forward and live the life we deserve. No one wants to live an unhappy life, but if you give up after failing so many times then you will be miserable. The quitters never win and the winners never quit. If anything else you always have to remember that.

So for all those seniors about to graduate you are not the only ones facing the anxiety of the adult world. There are thousands of others in the same position as you. We are all uncertain and scared, and if you aren’t then kudos to you! But for those of us who are, everything will work out in the end, as long as you keep trying. When you have admitted defeat is when you have let the adult world win. But just remember, it’s only as scary as you make it. Plus, you have to fake it till you make it! Confidence is key, but you’ve made it this far so there is no stopping you now!

Pre-Graduation Jitters

April 30, 2015 in Alive Campus, Career, Colleges

You’re a senior that’s graduating in just a few days, and you’re having your quarter-life crisis about where your life is headed after you walk across that stage. You’ve just reached a huge milestone in your life, but you can’t help but think of all the possible things that can go either completely right or entirely wrong. Will you get a job? Will you have the chance to move to your dream city? Will you find your soulmate? The questions are endless, so here are just a few thoughts I compiled to make you feel just a little bit better about your potential future.

Career: Finding a job is hard. Chances are, you won’t get a job right out of college, and that’s completely okay. Statistics show that it can take about 8 months to find an entry-level job, even with an outstanding Bachelor’s degree from an accredited university. So take those few months to enjoy your free time, because as we all know, college is extremely stressful. Everyone deserves a break at some point to enjoy themselves. Also note that your first job may not always be completely related to your degree. That’s normal, because this is what will ultimately allow you to work your way up to your dream job. Don’t become discouraged and take it personally when companies don’t email you back after you sent in a picture-perfect application. There are so many factors involved in the hiring process that it’s impossible to pinpoint exactly what a job may be looking for. Expect rejection at some point, and stay positive no matter what. You WILL get hired at some point.

Getting Engaged: The norm has become getting engaged immediately after graduation or even during senior year of college, but don’t think that you’re obligated to just because everyone else is. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been with your significant other. Finding a job and supporting yourself is important to do before completely settling down with someone else. You should always follow your dreams and your career plan first. If your significant other loves you, they will support you no matter what. So don’t panic if your boyfriend isn’t down on one knee immediately after you graduate. Really, there’s no rush!

Living on Your Own: There’s a good chance you’ll have to live back at home with your parents for a few months or even a year as you work. This is probably the best option so you can save up for an apartment. We’ve all said at some point that we can’t wait to be officially living on our own, but there’s nothing wrong with taking advantage of your parents’ home for just a little while longer. This will allow you to save up and won’t put you in even more debt so you can comfortably live on your own when the time comes.

Salary: Don’t be picky when it comes to earning a salary. Entry-level jobs are just to get your foot in the door. As much as we’d all love to be making a huge salary our first year of working, this probably won’t be the case. Just remember that you’ll eventually be able to work your way up the ladder. Whatever a company offers you, take it, because they’re essentially offering you the chance to jumpstart your career.

Take these pointers into consideration as the real world welcomes you with open arms. Always have patience and stay optimistic. And of course, a big Congratulations to all of those graduating this spring! Embrace this wonderful moment, because I’m sure you’ve worked extremely hard to get where you are. Take a moment to breathe, toss your cap, and just remember that it’ll all work out.

Congratulations to the Graduates!

Congratulations to the Graduates!

The Myths of Your Senior Year

March 27, 2015 in Alive Campus, Career

Senior yearSenior Year. It’s FINALLY here and some of you might be coming to the realization that you are about to enter the real world in just about two short months. I don’t know about you, but I am starting to panic. Everyone says that your senior year is supposed to be the best year of your life and enjoy it while you can! Well how can I when I have to find a job?! I keep trying to enjoy these last two months of my undergraduate education but all I keep thinking about is if I’m going to be homeless or not come May 16. It’s a scary feeling knowing that you may be living on the street in a few months after putting blood, sweat and tears into a $40,000 education. And I know I may be exaggerating a little bit because you always have your parents’ couch right? But at the same time I am completely serious.

These feelings of panic can be attributed to three statements or “myths” that every senior has probably heard more than a dozen times. First is “Oh you’re a senior? Do you have a job yet?” I don’t know how many times I’ve heard this question from family, friends, and strangers alike and I don’t know how much longer I can take it. This question irks me so much because it only adds pressure onto the already panicked attitude I have knowing that graduation is fast approaching. If I had a job then I would immediately tell you straight up before anything else, but if I don’t say anything then please do not ask unless you are going to give me ideas of where to apply.

That question is usually followed by “Oh that’s okay you’ll get a job because everyone wants graduates from your college and it all works out in the end!” In here lies the myth that because I go to a one of the best military colleges in America that someone will automatically hand me a job come graduation. We’ve been breed since freshman year that jobs are handed to us like free money because everyone loves VMI graduates. Well considering I don’t have a job yet that couldn’t be more false. And the thing is, I knew this would happen and wasn’t expecting to be handed a job, but it’s the fact that they make us feel like we’re better than everyone and that you’ll be employed come graduation.

The third question that is sometimes asked is “What would you like to do and where are you looking?” Well honestly I just want a job so I’m looking anywhere. It is even proven that a majority of people don’t even work in the field that they received their degree in and this may be due to the fact that people settle because they need money and I myself would probably do the same. However, I do have a dream job and would like to get a job in that general field. Additionally, what senior actually has the time to look for jobs?! My schedule at VMI does not leave me very much time for myself much less time to look for a job. And frankly, I just want to focus on graduating because I do not want to stay here longer than I have to. Therefore, if I do have the time to apply for a job then I will but other than that I am focusing on getting my diploma, graduating with distinction, and getting out of Dodge.

So if you are a senior and have been hit with these three questions, just know that you are not alone. I am right there with you and as of right now come May 16 I will be looking for my next move. But it’s all going to work out in the end, right? (Or so we’ve been told).

5 Things Every Cornellian Should Do before Graduation

February 13, 2015 in Alive Campus, Campus Life, Top 10 Lists

5 Things Every Cornellian Should Do before Graduation

5 Things Every Cornellian Should Do before Graduation

Sled down Libe Slope during a snowstorm: Cornell is known for it’s amount of snow (we’re no Buffalo, but we’re also no Florida!) Ithaca’s weather is locally mocked with the phrase, “Shithaca.” There’s a reason for this term–it’s the level of unwanted and uncalled for snow. Libe Slope, the huge hill that connects West Campus housing and Central Campus, is the optimal spot for sledding during the days when staff has yet to shovel the pathways. Steal a lunch tray, use an old binder (or a current one for that class you just absolutely despise), grab your macbook, basically grab anything remotely related to a snow sled, and risk your life sledding down that nearly 50 degree slow in the nearly 0 degree weather. Scream, cry, laugh.

Do something dirty in the stacks: On the sixth floor of Olin Library’s stacks lies a wall that divides the study tables from the other half of the book shelves. Let’s face it, no one besides the librarians actually rummage through these bookshelves, making this the prime location for all things kinky—be it a blowjob, a handjob, a make out session full of French kissing and lip biting, vaginal sex, anal sex, or anything else that your dirty mind can imagine. Or, if you’re not feeling brave enough, there’s always that one bathroom stall on every floor of Olin’s stacks! *wink*

Do the Walk of Shame: Although I like to parade around flaunting my afternoon glow, most students (women, especially—a big thank you to social constructions of “good femininity” and “proper womanhood”) would rather rush back to their respective dorm rooms without having anyone see them in their attire from last night’s Fraternity date night. You see these students looking down at the ground as they try their best to fast walk without looking like they’re fast walking. You see these students trying so hard to cover up those two hickey marks—one clearly visible on the side of their neck, the other more subtle hiding underneath the top button of that J. Crew pastel button down. Regardless of your gender, sexual orientation, or necessity to be visible, do yourself a favor and reward yourself with a not so favorable walk of shame after a night of probably the sloppiest pick up lines, throat burning tequila shots, and hardcore sex. College is all about experiments and experiences, so why not?

Sake bomb at Plum Tree or Miyake: It’s date night! Fraternities and sororities seem to always host their date nights at one of the two Japanese restaurants on Dryden Road/Eddy Street. These two places rarely ever check ID cards, and if they do, they really don’t even care about your age–just that you have an ID. I still don’t understand that concept, but it seems to work in everyone’s favor! Order up some sake bombs, and slam those tables!

Instagram the cherry blossoms in the spring: Be an Instagram whore. Use a nice filter to highlight the pink in those budding cherry blossom trees. You deserve a nice picture full of color after 6 months of nothing but frosty white instas.