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The Best of AliveCampus

April 24, 2015 in Alive Campus

AliveCampusI’ve been writing for AliveCampus since June of 2014 and have had the pleasure of reading many of the articles that the other writers have written. Since I go to a military college it is always fun to read about other experiences at civilian colleges and compare. Also, it’s somewhat living vicariously through them since military college is very strict. My four years of college is not the norm. So I would like to share five of the articles that I really liked. They range from a variety of different topics, but I really think they are honest and worth a few minutes of your time.

  1. “Is Online Dating Worth It?”

This article was fairly recent and actually perfect timing. I just gave a TED talk in my Rhetoric and Public Address class on dating and relationships for the millennial generation. Our generation is all about the now and focused on instant gratification and thus why so many people would rather have a dating app that allows them to hookup whenever rather than be in a committed relationship. However, there are a lot of people that do use dating websites and apps to meet people, but at the same time I agree with this article because the writer says that meeting people in person is just a lot more fun. Give this article a read if you are currently using a dating app. http://alivecampus.com/is-online-dating-worth-it/#comments

2. “Cornell’s Feminist, Gender, and Sexuality Studies Major”

This was a very enlightening article. I had no idea there was such a major at any college, especially me being from a military college. I found this article to be very honest and open-minded. As a woman at a mostly-male military college, I consider myself to be somewhat of a feminist and after reading this article I would definitely consider taking one of these classes if my college offered them! This article definitely deserves a read! http://alivecampus.com/cornells-feminist-gender-and-sexuality-studies-major/

3. “Maintaining Healthy Habits in College”

This article is great at giving ideas of what to do for workouts if you don’t feel like working out at your gym. It was also interesting to learn about what the gym was like at FSU. I wish I had a nice workout facility like they do, but sadly ours is very much outdated and limited to what you can do. However, you should give this article a read if you are lacking ideas when it comes to working out. http://alivecampus.com/maintaining-healthy-habits-in-college/

4. “The Dark Style of the Moon”

This article was all about fashion at Emerson College. I absolutely love fashion but sadly do not get to participate in it since I wear a uniform every day. I had no idea that there were so many different styles at a civilian college. I thought it was literally just yoga pants like the beginning of the article mentions. But this article is also another good read because it opens your eyes to all the different styles that college students are wearing at various colleges. http://alivecampus.com/the-dark-style-of-the-moon/

5. “Sayonara Senior Year”

Being a senior myself, I had to read this article to see what it was about. I really liked it because it started out with an anecdote about the writers’ experience on a religious retreat that she never thought she would go on since she isn’t religious. However, she learned a few different things from going on the retreat which correlate to things people should be doing in their everyday life. I recommend you read this article to see what they are. http://alivecampus.com/sayonara-senior-year/

Is Online Dating Worth It?

February 6, 2015 in Alive Campus, Campus Life, Colleges, Love

Online dating has been increasing and has become normal over the years. Virtually, meeting a person has become a easy method for those individuals who have a difficult time finding a person or are not very good with flirting or asking someone out in person to meet someone. Using the computer or app (which has become popular recently too) it’s easy to engage in a conversation and deepen the relationship. Yet, there are some important problems that I considered are not healthy for a person’s social engagement. First, hiding behind a computer or a mobile phone is what I consider, hiding from others. Second, it is possible that because you really do not know who the other person is like, even if they show you their picture, may be a horrible person who you should not associate with. Thirdly, in my option, it is better to meet a person the traditional way, meeting in person.

Online Dating

Online Dating!

Match.com: This website is one of the early websites to encourage online dating. Match has become so popular that people who are considered socially awkward are encouraged to use this site to meet someone. I can see why this website or even online dating in general can be beneficial to people who have a difficult time showing their good qualities because a lot of people, in this generation, focus on appearance and ignore the feelings and thinking of others. Yet, I still do not believe that hiding behind a computer is the best way to meet a person. For example, you may meet someone using this website and the way they express themselves are to your liking, but after meeting in person things start to change. Yes, online dating do come with some risks to meeting such as person, but why use a online website to get yourself in that situation. On the other hand there are some people who meet horrible people in the traditional way, in person.

The statements above may sound like I am contradicting myself, but I just want to make clear that online dating is not for everyone. There are people who although have a difficult time meeting a person the traditional, in person, would rather wait until it happens than try online dating.

Tinder: I’ve never use the Tinder app before, so my opinion about it may not be fully accurate. I do want to say that after reading some reviews about this app, it can be interesting meeting people around your area who you have never met before. Like many other apps, Tinder has horrible reviews that just doesn’t want to make a person use it.

Apps and websites can be a good way to help others meet someone whom they might be interested in, but it is important to recommend that using the internet to meet someone who you might want to spend the rest of your life will be a gamble. I would rather go the normal way to meet someone like thought a friend, a party, in a event, church, train, cafe, etc. It is a story to remember and not just say we met in a website like Match or though an app like Tinder.  

Online Dating: The Best Option For Wheelock Students

January 24, 2014 in Alive Campus, Campus Life, Love

If you are looking for a place to find someone to date, someone to experience memories, sad or happy, then Wheelock is not the place to go. Wheelock is 89% female and 11% male. On average, there are only two male students in a classroom. A part of the college experience is to meet new people and get a boyfriend or girlfriend, depending on your sexual preference, but at Wheelock those options are minimized. If you are a woman who is straight, which at Wheelock heterosexual is the majority, it will be difficult to find a guy on campus who is single. Yes! it is difficult to find a person to date on Wheelock campus, but through your friends, colleges of the Fenway events, and work you might find someone.

Couples at Wheelock: Even with the lack of males, there are still some couples on campus. These couples quickly become noticeable and are like mini celebrities on campus because everybody knows who you are dating. The male population at Wheelock has been slowing increasing since in the last two years, which is great news for future students.

Online Dating: Since Wheelock lacks guys on campus, one of the options for someone who wants to date is through online dating. I have never try online dating, but I have heard from people who have use sites like match and eharmoney that sometimes you find an interest person you might want to date and sometimes you do not. Warning!: Online dating can be convenient for those who are shy or want to meet someone new, but remember it’s online dating and it can be dangerous, so just be cautious and careful.

You never know who is on the other side of the screen!

You never know who is on the other side of the screen!

Friends: There will always be friends who are willing to introduce you people who you might consider dating. Friends you make on campus will know what you like and what you hate, so it will give them an idea of the type of person you are looking for or you can just tell them.

Dating sites: There are a lot of places to go on a date around Boston. Across the street of Wheelock there is a movie theater and a lot of restaurants, from italian food to Chinese food. If you want to expand your options and travel time you can take the T (train/bus) to downtown Boston and go ice skating. In downtown there are even more restaurants to go and another movie theater.

Colleges of the Fenway (COF) Events: Through COF events or cross registering for classes through COF you can meet other people who you might want to date. If you stay at Wheelock your chances of meeting a person will decrease. I am not saying that dating is necessary, but if you are interest in dating you need to make more effort than normal because of the lack of males on campus.

Work: Another option is through your coworkers. Through your coworkers you can create a lot of opportunities to meet someone or get a coworker to introduce you to someone.

Even though there is a lack of dating options at Wheelock, if you want to date and find someone there are other options like online dating, through friends, COF events, and coworkers. The only advise is to never give up and be careful with online dating because it can be dangerous if you are not careful enough. 

Love on Campus

March 16, 2013 in Academics, Alive Campus, Campus Life, Love, Style

Like the best quote of Petti Stanger, the matchmaker from the Bravo show Millionaire Matchmaker, “Love, everyone wants it; Not everyone finds it”, it is hard to find love sometimes. But thanks to the Internet, more and more young people use online dating sites to find their true love, an expert said.

 

Between 2007 and 2009, 21 percent of straight couples met online, while 61 percent for gay couples, according to the data of Stanford University.  Due to the advent of dating websites and even apps, meeting your next love online has become a hint.

 

A friend of mine, who goes to Syracuse University, recently set up a profile on dating site Match.com. Because she is quite shy around guys and has no time for dating, online dating is a perfect match for her. At first, she felt a bit awkward about it, because of the stereotypes that people who meet people online are losers and are socially incapable in some way. But my friend is such a lovely and good-looking girl, who has always got single-gender education and is caught up with academics.  Online dating definitely open up doors to people like my friend, and she is definitely not alone.

 

As dating websites become more professional and secure, they save a lot of time for people and help users branch out their small social circles. It is also so convenient to start a conversation online than in person. All you need is to browse profiles and leave a message to someone who you are interested in. You can avoid all the nervous and bizarre moments to ask a girl out in the bar, or try to start a conversation with a sweating guy on the treadmill. You don’t need to meet someone, just because they live two blocks away. All of sudden, you have all the opposite gender individuals in the entire world.

 

However, still a lot of people don’t feel secure to put their personal information online and have no idea who is sitting behind the other side of the computer.  Here are some tips for online dating:

(Source:theFW)

1. Pick up a right usernames. A study shows that a good username can attracts more clicks and thus increase the chance to meet the right person.

2. Use a recent photo. Don’t use a ten-year old photo! It is lying!

3. Be aware of your target. The search engine of dating websites can help you find the right age range, location, education, religion… just be sure what you want.

4. Ask questions! It is a perfect way to spot liars. Verify their personal information. If you sense something fishy, it is better to stop. Trust your instincts.

(source:flavorwire.com)