Feelings of nervousness and homesickness during college are normal for all students, though when those feelings turn to uncertainty and doubt towards the college, your major, or your future, it becomes important to re-evaluate your place in college. With the semester coming to an end, students have made the decision to either stay or leave. Whatever decision made, it’s important to acknowledge the repercussions, have a confident plan in mind, and a support system.
Over the past three months of attending Emerson, I learned a lot not only about Boston and journalism, but about my strengths and weaknesses as an individual. The first month or two of college was a breeze. I enjoyed wandering the city with my friends, sipping lattes at quirky coffee shops, and riding the train around MA. I was excited for my writing classes, and aimed at forming relationships with my peers and professors.
Despite how my life had become, something was missing. Focus. I had stopped focusing on myself: my mind, my body, my wants, and my needs. This focus was neglected throughout the months of college, which led to physical and mental unhealthiness and unhappiness. In order to fully thrive, grow, or succeed in life, YOU (the individual) need to be at least 99% comfortable with your physical and mental surroundings. Although I tried to resurface the focus I had in high school and bring myself comfortability, I couldn’t.
The Big Decision
I made the final decision to leave Emerson about one month ago. I had been discussing this option with my childhood friends and family members weeks prior, all whom provided unconditional support and advice. I also spoke with my Emerson professors and friends. What I most love about Emerson is how most people welcome you with open arms. I felt supported to discuss my feelings and possible ideas, and I felt comfortable with my decision to leave.
High school students, college students, parents… It’s OK to leave college, transfer, and start fresh! 1 in every 3 college students will transfer, according The New York Times study on transfer students, and about 40% will enroll in community college, according to Business Insider. It’s highly more rewarding to explore your options and get back on track (find balance again) then to waste away money, time, and ambiguity at a 4-year college.
I enrolled myself in community college, in my hometown of San Diego, CA, and couldn’t be happier. I can’t wait to take a wide range of courses, explore my interests, return to a healthier state, and be with my family. Leaving school to be near your family ISN’T a crime! Family should be a top priority, especially in an adolescent/adult’s life.
If you are or were like me, unsure about your college, your major, or yourself, then recognize those feelings and don’t ignore them. When you ignore your feelings and emotions, they build up over time. This can lead to depression, anxiety, panic attacks, or self-destruction. Acknowledge your feelings and address them. We only live one life, so make it stress-free and beautiful!