I want to start this off by reminding you that Assumption is a SMALL school, therefore dating can sometimes make you feel like you’re back in high school – playing hard to get or trying desperately to impress the guy or girl you’ve got your eye on. Let’s face it, at a school where the girl/boy ratio is nearly 70:30, the pickings are slim. Now, you may be thinking this is great for the guys but not for the girls, but it doesn’t really sway in favor of either gender. Since there is such a small group of men on campus, girls tend to date a guy, and get to know their friend group in the process, and then when something goes wrong, every guy that girl’s ex boyfriend knew of knew of is totally off limits and seemingly unattractive. Do you see where I’m going with this vicious cycle of dating at Assco?
Now don’t get me wrong, dating isn’t IMPOSSIBLE here, and I have actually heard numerous stories of couples who met freshman year and stuck it out to get married in the on campus chapel a couple of years later. Of course, these instances are rare, but they do happen. I’m just trying to say that dating at a small school can be difficult, especially if you’re one of those people who are extremely awkward around an ex or one night stand…prepare to see them almost everyday, in class or walking about campus.
I have honestly never noticed if there were many couples on campus, and I would have to say there’s a lot more “hooking up” than actually dating. It’s college, so I’m not surprised. I haven’t seen many dates “in progress” on campus, besides the awkward “Charlie’s” dates and excessive PDA in the library, but you mostly hear of people going on dates to the various restaurants on Shrewsbury street. If you hear that a “couple in the works” had dinner at Via or the Sole they’re probably pretty serious or on the verge of being “official”.
This topic of dating in general goes a lot further than Assumption itself though, and it has a lot more to do with our generation. I’ve noticed boys don’t really do much to “swoon” girls these days. For example I saw a boy on campus the other day hit the handicapped button on the door to open it for his girlfriend rather than just opening the door himself (how romantic). Our generation is so reliant on social media and other platforms to connect that we sometimes forget what our human emotions are, which is probably why we find it hard to make meaningful relationships with a significant other. Now, I’m not trying to say that our generation is lost, or lazy or that boys suck. Us “twentysomethings” are teetering off the edge of a place where it’s acceptable to get incoherently drunk at 11am and we are just steps away from walking into an office at 7am with a mile long list of responsibilities. We’re in a weird gray space, which makes dating hard.
So, I’m not saying dating is horrific at Assumption, but I’m also not saying you will find your soulmate here and live happily ever after. College won’t last forever, so have fun, and if you meet someone worth getting to know along the way, just see where it goes.